Take Control Of Your Life TODAY

I’ve come across so many people – friends, family, acquaintance, strangers who have told me they feel confused, unfocused, and unsure of their future and cautious of taking action on it. I had lunch with my friend, Justine, whose name I’ve change to protect her privacy. We met to talk about my portfolio. I’m finally able and ready to dedicate more time to my photography and wanted her to take a look at my work. So, we met up at Starbucks and had some coffee a little after breakfast. After discussing art and my portfolio I asked her what she plans on doing now that she’s out of college. Her response to me was something along the lines of, “I have no idea. I have a degree, I’m working a retail job I hate, and have no idea what I’m doing with my future.”

So, I said “Of course you know what you’re doing. You’re working, you’re volunteering at a medical center and applying for grad schools. What do you mean you have no idea what you’re doing. “

Justine and I were friends in high school. She was a very talented artist and when she got to college was very conflicted with what path to take. For a while she thought about doing a double major art/psychology. But in the end decided to stick with the latter. Our conversation and my pursuit of photography had brought up concerns and longings of creating more art- a passion she had not been able to keep up with due to school, work, applications, etc.

As we walked out of Starbucks all I could think of was how many times I’d heard those words from others. “I don’t know what I’m doing with my life.” “I don’t know where my life is going.”

As much as you tell yourself and perhaps others that you don’t know what you’re doing with your life, the reality is that you DO know.

You control your life and no one else! And when you begin to realize that you have control of your actions and therefore your destiny your
life changes.

You can live any life that you want, as long as you take the proper actions to ensure your desires will be fulfilled. Each moment adds up
to the next moment, each second creates the hour and each hour creates
a day.

When you live in each moment and focus on what you are doing in that moment, you ARE creating your own life.

Each memory is a moment in time which we remember because of the beauty of that memory. But YOU create your memories. And you also create your life.

Instead of thinking about what you don’t want in life and how much you hate your job at Applebees, think about what you DO want.

Create a list of all the things you want in life. Making a list will allow you to see your goals in a concrete way. And will be a reminder of what you want to accomplish and how far you have to go to get to
your dreams.

And be as creative as you like with the list you make. If you like to write, put it on paper. If you like to sew, make a doll representing
what you want in life. If you paint, put your thoughts and desires on a canvas. If you like to take photographs, create a photo-image
collage. Be as creative as you like! It’s your your life and YOU have the power to make it into whatever you like!

If it’s not broken, don’t try to fix it

Sometimes we think we need to fix those things which aren’t broken. We touch, we tinker, we poke until we actually break an object that was not having any difficulties working to begin with.  Most of us do this out of nervousness or lack of patience.  We’re waiting and waiting for an answer we know will not come quickly.  And instead of stepping away and slowly moving aside from the situation we keep touching it – until it does break.

If only we would have waited, we would not have to buy a new ipod or have to fix a broken relationship.  If only….

It’s not knowing what’s going to happen – not having patience, which gets our brain turning and thinking to the point of exhaustion.  However, sometimes not knowing the outcome is the fun part.  It allows you to live each moment as it’s meant to be lived, without focusing on the future.

We stay in each moment and follow where the path leads us instead of trying to create our own path.  Not only can this fix our broken relationship(s) but it can also have a relaxing non-nervous effect on ourselves.  So today, try not to focus on the future.  Don’t try to fix something that isn’t broken just because you’re bored, nervous or both.  Just take a step back and see where the path takes you.  Your road may not turn out to be as straight as you had planned, but you’ll get to your final destination just the same.