A wise friend recently told me that after a time of mourning or grief we often experience clarity or achievement. When you’re faced with a situation that makes you think that all your hard work has been for nothing- that instead of moving forward you feel as if you’ve taken a step back, these are the moments we have right before a transformation is about to take place.
You’re leaving behind what you once knew and are stepping into a new way of being or thinking. Whenever we face conflicts in our lives or want to get rid of old ways of behaving, we must be able to come to terms with that old behavior in order to move on. Because you’re on the brink of stepping into new territory facing an old pattern or conflict can feel like you’re taking a step backwards.
In reality, it’s this last straw that pushes us forward- that makes us want to resolve our conflicts. I recently opened a fortune cookie that read, “The bull must remember that he once was a calf.”
Just to let you know, I’m usually the type of person who reads a fortune cookie and throws it away or laughs at it. I rarely remember any and I’ve never kept one. But this one really made me think. So, I held onto it.
It made me realize that there are many different stages in life and whenever we experience a “re-birth” or are going through a transformation, we’re usually confronted with old issues. Issues that make us think of topics we thought were long past us and areas in life we never wanted to step into again. However, it’s these areas that allow us to learn in the most effective way possible. They bring us to a new place by looking out an old window. And by confronting these issues we truely put them behind us and are able to enter a new stage of life.
So, the next time you think that you’re going backwards and all your hard work has been for nothing, think again. Transformation requires a step through a new set of doors, a view through a new pair of eyes. The eyes we open allow us to see the next step we’re supposed to take. Each new stage in life requires a rebirth and perhaps one or two eye-openers. Remembering what it took for us all to get to where we are is the only way to really move forward. So, open your eyes and don’t be afraid to face what’s standing right in front of you! Each new stage of life requires you to take a step back and start from the beginning. When you allow yourself to open your eyes and face your conflicts head on you are taking one step closer to living a free life.